everettodair:

i got 99 problems and society’s attitudes towards sex and sexuality is like 98 of them　

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Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator

I wish I didn’t need to reblog stuff like this. I wish people *got it*. But judging from the ridiculous response to these posts, stuff like this clearly still needs to be repeated. 

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You’re either loose, (some young girls of color are just automatically marked “fast” as soon as their bodies develop) or a stuck up bitch.

Either way your sexuality, or how others want to decide what your sexuality is, is the main factor that determines how human others want to treat you…

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jamiekinn:

One of my lovely followers pointed out that a certain creepypasta blog reposted my story Concerning Unprotected Sex without crediting me, changing the title to “Unprotected Sex” in the process (so, I’m assuming, I couldn’t track them down).

I’d just like to remind everyone that all my stories are copyrighted under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License, which means you can share my work, but you have to credit me by name and you cannot modify my work in any way. It’s true, I marketed my stories as creepypasta, but these are not anonymous stories and they are copyrighted. I’ve allowed everyone to read my work for free at my own risk. Please don’t take advantage of this. 

I’d like to thank the follower that pointed this out to me. You are eternally in my debt. ♥

If anyone sees one my stories on another blog, and my name isn’t attached, I’d GREATLY APPRECIATE IT if they told me. These stories are my lifeblood and it hurts me when people abuse them so. 

If you have any questions, you can always message me or email me at jamiekinn@gmail.com

Thanks guys!

- Jamie

guys don’t do this, okay
this goes for everything personal that people make and share with us on the internet
creative work is not public domain
it is someone’s property
and unless the artist specifically gives you permission to reuse or modify their work— if the material doesn’t belong to you, don’t treat it like it does
it doesn’t just hurt the artist, it hurts those of us who enjoy that person’s work
because if crap like this continues, they may decide the internet is not a safe place to be sharing it

if you come across something you like, reblog it from the source
there is absolutely no reason for you to choose to copypaste it instead, modified and without credit

so don’t be a dick >:/ 

swankivy:

I’m seeing this too often and I want it to stop.

I talk about asexuality and someone responds with “I know what that’s like, because sometimes my sex drive is low and I don’t want sex at all.  And you don’t see me calling it ‘asexual.’”

A demisexual person talks about the difference between normative sexuality and demisexuality, and someone responds with “I sometimes have sex with people I’m not attracted to.  And I didn’t want to have sex with my partner until I knew hir better.  You don’t see me calling it ‘demisexual.’”

A gray-asexual person talks about the difference between normative sexuality and graysexuality, and someone responds with “So what?  Sounds like you’re just really picky.  I don’t want to have sex with everything that moves either, and you don’t see me calling it ‘graysexual.’”

People, people.  The reason folks are identifying with these labels that seem so useless, irrelevant, and redundant to you is that they are not having your experience.  They are using these words because they relate to sexuality differently than those with normatively sexual relationships.  What are you getting out of it by walking into a room and saying “Excuse me, I don’t understand your experience or why you say it’s any different from mine, so I am going to assign you a Special Snowflake complex whenever I can’t process your reality”?

Enough with the anecdotes, folks.  We understand that you don’t get it.  We understand that you think we simply enjoy creating microcategories to describe ourselves, perhaps because (like many people who confuse behavior with orientation) you believe we think sexuality is icky and that we want to separate ourselves from being lumped in with icky people.  We understand that from the outside, asexuality looks like abstinence, demisexuality looks like slow-growing normative relationships, and graysexuality looks like being picky.  But that’s the point.  From the outside, that’s what it looks like.  That’s what it looks like if you judge us by what you see on the surface instead of listening to what we say.

From the inside, moving through a sexual world without relating to it normatively is significant and influential, especially during our formative years.  People who are gray and demi identify that way partly because they experience the world the way non-gray/non-demi asexuals do much or most of the time.  They have a partially or primarily ace experience in their lives, and they find it useful to involve themselves with other ace-spectrum people who get it.  I haven’t seen as much confusion here over non-gray and non-demi asexuals as long as they don’t have sex and make everything “confusing,” but for what it’s worth, asexuals who aren’t willing to have sex often get told they’re either gay in denial or not-at-all-special straight prudes.  We’re really not trying to look special by using these words.  We’re trying to communicate with you, and hoping you’ll understand our experience instead of mocking it.

But here’s the thing.  We’d love you to understand us, but we’re not asking for your permission.  On the inside, we find these divisions and labels useful while talking about our attractions or lack thereof.  On the inside, we have helpful and enjoyable conversations about our experiences once we have the words to describe them.  On the inside, we find fellowship and understanding, and we don’t need anyone’s blessing to do that.  We aren’t specifically “trying to exclude” anyone by acknowledging that there IS an inside.  Don’t take it as an offense that you are naturally excluded from a group that’s having a different experience from you.  Don’t look at us and say “I don’t relate to this at all, and I don’t like that they’re naming it and acting like it’s real.”  We’re not doing that to you.  We acknowledge that you exist.  We don’t try to tear you down and say your relationships don’t need words.

If this is not your experience, you are outside.  And that’s completely okay.  It’s not a fence that’s dividing us.  It’s not a suggestion that we’re on different levels of any kind, or that any group has a right to look down on the other.  It’s not some wall we’re putting up to tell you to stay out of our space—that isn’t what we’re asking.  But when you—you who identify as a majority-group sexuality—look at a minority group and tell them to stop annoying you by talking about themselves, you’re telling them that only your experience is real and important.  And you’re doing that with the power of the status quo behind you.

There’s nothing wrong with just telling us you don’t share our experience.  We aren’t asking you to.  Ally with us, or ignore us if we’re just too annoying to you, but don’t tell us to stop using words to talk about who we are, and don’t reduce our identity to a childish ploy to shame “sexual people.”  We don’t think of it like that at all, and the main places I’ve seen that attitude thrown around are cases of non-ace-spectrum people putting those words in our mouths.  (And I’m sure someone could find an ace person behaving poorly and quote hir while representing hir words as our prevailing attitude, but seriously.  No.)

If you’re quoting our definitions and telling the world how you just don’t get why our experience is in any way non-normative, you’re by definition not having our experience and it’s therefore not yours to describe.  If your experience isn’t our experience, don’t tell us how to talk about it.

Not from the outside. 

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zygotik is now following you.

WHAT IS THIS EVEN
what do i do 

/flails helplessly

But I agree with this rule: never create a character to be someone you want OR someone you want to be. If you follow that rule, sex and attractiveness will stay relevant and not be the only bridge between character and audience.

There are good reasons to have an “attractive” cast. Ex: I.F. is about sexual misuse, addiction + how extreme sexualities complicate love. Axel couldn’t be the player he is if he weren’t ‘hot’. And its OOC for him to fall for someone that isn’t.

this is exactly what i mean. an attractive character should be attractive within the context of the story. they should not be attractive just so you can get off on smushing them all together and drawing pin-ups of them. your characters are not personal sex objects. if they sexualize themselves; if other characters sexualize them; if the story itself sexualizes them, it’s contextual, it has meaning. if the author/artist is the sole sexualizing factor, or the primary one, it’s a problem.
but on the same note, a cast still needs to be diverse. having an entirely stunning collection of characters actually brings down the individual attractiveness of each one, because they’re no longer a special case. there’s nothing to set them apart. it’s hard to portray anyone as particularly beautiful or sexy when every single other cast member is similarly pleasing, whether in appearance or in personality. they might be so in different WAYS, yes, but the fact remains that it’s both distracting and detrimental for the ones you actually want to draw attention to.
both for the sake of realism, and really to maximize the effect of their appeal, heart-stopping sex appeal should be used sparingly. imo. it’s tempting to make everybody some epitome of something you really like or would like to be, but it’s important to know where to stop and what to leave out. it’s integral that you’re able to step back and look at whether you’re doing what’s best for your story, or just what’s attractive to you personally.
unless you’re writing a romance novel. in which case, it’s totally all about hyperbolic fantasy and fapping to begin with. :T